Tomorrow, I will be turning 25. Yep, people, 25 and yet here I am still wondering what I want to do in life. I blame my lack of focus and my overly ambitious self. When you’re too ambitious, you end up juggling too many things on your hands. Apparently, the feelings I had about myself is labelled as “quarter-life crisis.” I never even knew about this until I started googling about it!
I have a degree in Biology, and back when I was a student I wanted to become a physician. But, you can’t always get what you want in life, and you have to make do with what you have. I have been so caught up in questioning whether or not I love my current career path that I forgot how happy I was in the first place.
Quarter-life crisis and my low self-esteem
However, when I think deeply about my issues, I realized that quarter-life crisis is just my way of doubting myself for not being able to live up to what I originally planned. Thanks to my family, a job that lets me enjoy my hobby and my healthy mind and body, I feel happier every day, even when I am nearing my 25th birthday. So, instead of teaching you how to get over your mid-20s life crisis, I’ll just share a few things you can do to start having a fuller life.
Stop Overthinking, Start Living
Thinking too much can be both a blessing and a curse. It is a blessing because you get to look at the best solution for your problems, and it’s a curse because you tend to find the things you need to avoid. However, too much thinking can eventually lead to not living your life at all, because you’re all nervous and scared of what the future has for you. Start appreciating the beauty of life, instead of looking at the different problems you have. Try to shift your perspective little by little to set your goals better.
Channel your inner positive
You know what they say, “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Be creative, and most importantly, be positive and have a little faith. You might not be able to get what you want now, but don’t let that hinder you from finding ways to reach it. All those things happening to you will eventually lead to something grand.
More Attention on You, Less on Others
I noticed how much time I spend on social media just to check out how my batchmates in college and high school are doing. Unconsciously, I envy their work, their new camera, travel stories, restaurant trips relationships and whatnot. It’s nice to be updated, but if you’re going to pity yourself while doing so, try to do something else. Grab a book. Write a love song. Eat your favorite food. If those don’t work for you then do whatever it is you have always wanted to do for yourself.
Trade Your Vices to a New Hobby
Vices just eat up your time, as well as your resources. If you’re gearing towards becoming more financially independent, then you’ll be nowhere that mark if you keep up with your bad habits. Instead of spending your time on these things, try to start a new hobby. Learn how to speak a new language, play the guitar, create a blog, or enrol in an international cuisine cooking class perhaps.
Love What You Have and Use it to Grow
Lots of people have a to-do list, but let’s face it, it feels horrible whenever you miss out on a certain goal. In reality, we don’t always get what we want, but we almost always get what we need. Embrace what you have wholeheartedly. From there, start building your life, one goal at a time. Living a happy life is all about being flexible. When there aren’t any options presented to you, make one for yourself. There’s always a way out of an issue, whether you think you’re having a quarter-life crisis or you just feel that life is generally being an arse. When your old plan doesn’t work out, then maybe you need a new plan. Learn how to know when you need to quit something and start anew.